- Is required every time
- Means an understandable exchange of affirmative words (“yes”)
- Is voluntary and explicit agreement to engage in the sexual activity in question
- Cannot be given if the person is affected by drugs or alcohol
How to Ask for consent:
Ask clearly and directly! Ask at each step, for each action.
- Can I kiss you?
- Can I hold your hand?
- I'd like to try...? Are you okay with that?
- Have you ever done…? Would you like to try this with me?
- I’d like to …? What do you think?
- Do you want to slow down?
People change their minds.
Saying yes to one activity, doesn’t mean yes to ALL activities.
Saying yes now, doesn’t mean yes the next time.
- What does No sound & look like:
- Non-verbal signals (body language), such as no eye contact, crossed arms/legs, not moving
- I’d prefer not to
- I don’t know
- I don’t like that
- I’m not sure
- I’m not ready
- I think I’ve had too much to drink
- What does Yes sound & look like:
- Yes, I’d like that
- I like when you do…
- I’m ready
- This feels good
Each year, at Humber, first year students attend ‘Can I Kiss You?’. During this presentation students are shown why "Asking First" and getting consent makes all the difference! Attendees are given skills to instantly use in their own relationships. Plus, students discover how to "Be a Friend" by appropriately intervening in potentially dangerous situations with their peers (especially when alcohol is involved).
Each student also learns how to properly provide support for survivors by "Opening the Door" for those they care about.